Choose Love: Extraordinary Love Stories

Jamie + Jesse | All Roads Lead to Alameda

November 25, 2019 Choose Love Season 1
Choose Love: Extraordinary Love Stories
Jamie + Jesse | All Roads Lead to Alameda
Show Notes Transcript

The paths of Jamie and Jesse had crossed many times before they had ever officially met. The two finally met while working at a haunted house in Las Vegas, Nevada and immediately bonded over their shared hometown of Alameda, California. Before long, they had come to learn that as children they lived just a couple blocks away from each other. Jamie can recall being woken up by chickens in the early morning, which, just happened to be owned by Jesse's grandmothers. Come to find out, they actually went to the same elementary school. After browsing through Jamie's copy of their elementary school yearbook, Jesse discovered that his 5th grade photo was circled in the book. To both of their surprise, Jamie couldn't recall why she would've done that decades prior. The two couldn't help but wonder if their love was written in the stars or if this was just a series of coincidences. I won't spoil it for you, check out the episode to learn more!

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to the choose love podcast, a show that Chronicles the extraordinary love of ordinary people. Our hope is that the show will inspire us all to hashtag choose love on today's episode, me , Jessie and Jamie , whose California fair in balls , Halloween and forgotten obsessions in years past. They share some of their secrets for lasting love.

Speaker 2:

I'm Jamie. Ben . I'm just, we are married as of March of this year. We actually met, we were both living in Las Vegas at the time and we met working as

Speaker 3:

[inaudible] actors in a casino haunted house.

Speaker 2:

We were both living in Vegas just uh, in our previous relationships that both kind of, not great relationships at the time, but , um , we both ended up working, answering an ad or seasonal employees for the on in house and one day or they're at work. Come to find out that we're both from California , which is me long Island city . Nobody's from here. Let me just, so tiny sixth grade . It was ridiculous. And I actually need somebody from Alameda in the middle of Vegas. So how did you guys actually meet?

Speaker 3:

Um , I think we both started there the same time they have like a part of the interview was you had to scream, see if you were scary enough to work there. First thing he ever said is Halloween's like my Christmas. So he was super stoked to be there. Um,

Speaker 2:

aye

Speaker 4:

Jesse , do you remember that moment? I actually do remember that moment cause I was sitting towards the back and Jamie was sitting in the front and it was um, it was kind of like a goal round where they would have, you know , people introduce themselves and where they're from and this little hand raises up in front and she says , uh , my name is Jamie from Ella meta. And I was like, what the heck , Alameda? So when we first got the chance, I, you know, I went over and I asked her , I was like, Alameda, California. And sure enough, one of the things that attracted me to her was her lips. She's , um , she has this like really light Brown color tone on her lips. That's natural. For the longest time I thought she was wearing like a really light tone or color lipstick. And what about you Jamie? What attracted you to Jesse the first time you saw him

Speaker 3:

seem like a very fun guy. He had a great sense of humor. Like everything was, you know, just the fact that he was so into the haunted house . Whereas I was more of the shy kind of reserved person. It was cool to meet someone though full of life. We each had different roles. Um , I was a zombie bellhop , um , cause it was like casino hotel themed D within what's called a ghillie suit, which is like a big,

Speaker 4:

it basically, it looks like a Bush that you just, it's a suit that looks like a Bush and you can just blend in with any kind of foliage. So his part, the haunted house was at

Speaker 3:

the very end where as people were getting ready to go towards active , he would jump up. You've terrified people. They ran out of that hole in house screaming. So who asked who out first? And we were both in other relationships while we were living in Vegas. And actually ended up spending time together as friends with our previous partners.

Speaker 4:

When we first met, I'm in Las Vegas, I was married at the time and Jamie was dating somebody and you know, we kept in contact. Then I moved back because yeah, after I got out of my relationship , um, and then we still, me and Jamie still, you know, talks through texts and stuff like that and phone calls. And then when she moved back we dated for a little bit.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, that's when I moved back. So that was like a period of a year and a half. We just sort of stayed in touch as friends, but we were both in relationships that were fizzling out toxic relationships . Paul's coming from a small town and then living in Vegas, you sort of have a different take on things out there. So we bonded over that. But as far as actual dating, it didn't take place until like a year and a half after we met to when we were both back in Alameda. And then one point I went to Beatles cover show with him and his ex wife at the , or his wife at the time. And then he also came to parties at my apartment with my boyfriend and I. That was

Speaker 4:

at that time, we wish being respectful of our relationships and keeping it as, you know, as just a friendship. It was nice to have and when I moved back then and telling me that , then that's when we started actively talking more texting more and stuff like that. And then she came home to just get out of Vegas for a little bit. And then her, me and her friends basically decided that she shouldn't live in Vegas anymore with her boyfriend. And so her friends and I just took it upon ourselves to get a U haul truck, fly out to Vegas at night if they're in the day, pack her up and move her back. Then once we moved her back, you know, two days later, that's when we started hanging out more, I guess .

Speaker 3:

Yeah. And we just, I mean, our dating life was sort of just, you know, things around Alameda, a lot of movies. We go to the movies a lot even now , um , hanging out at parks, just different stuff. That was nice to be back in the Bay area and in our hometown and fast forward like a year and a half and he ended up back in Alameda. Um, after his relationship ended, I ended up coming back to Alameda as my relationship was fizzling out as well. Um, and basically I decided I was not going to return that to Vegas. He and some of my friends actually helped me move back. We drove to Las Vegas, went to dinner and then drove back the next morning. He and I , um, drove the U hall together. Um, she almost killed us. He says, I almost killed him because at one point it

Speaker 4:

fixed my glasses. I asked her to grab the wheeled , you know, but literally grabs the wheel and just hold it straight as we're coming up to a left turn and I'm trying to clean my glasses, watching the road go left and she's not turning towards the road anymore. So

Speaker 3:

yeah, he tried to kill us. I just remember on that trip we talked the entire time like there was never a lull in conversation and I think that's what really like demanded it. Lee , you know just have this bond and that was like July of 2011 and then September on his birthday actually he officially asked me to be his girlfriend. How did you guys get engaged?

Speaker 4:

Took us a a long time to get engaged in our talks from Las Vegas back home. We discovered that when I lived on Saint Charles , she lived a block and a half down the street from me and can actually from her bedroom see over to my bedroom and my grandmothers roosters and chickens would wake her up every day. We were unpacking her storage one day and we were talking about the schools that we went to. And once we both went to same elementary school, I was in fifth grade and she was in first and she has her old yearbook . So I decided to look at her yearbook too, you know, check out my hunky picture from fifth grade. And uh , and it was a little creepy and kind of cute, but when I opened it up, there's my picture and Jamie and first grade had circled it

Speaker 3:

and I had no recollection of doing this. So I think maybe he was a reading buddy and my first grade class, but I could see how he would have been a little freaked out finding his fifth grade pictures circled in my yearbook.

Speaker 4:

That's her stocker story. So she's been stocking me since first grade.

Speaker 3:

So fast forward to 2013 we found out we were expecting her first child, our daughter Juliana . She was born in September of 2013 and then 2017 she was joined by baby brother Jaylyn . So it was at a baby shower for our son that Jesse created a slide show that detailed sort of our history of growing up blocks from each other. But not knowing each other. Um, the kind of connections that were missed all the time in Alameda. And that the fact that it's a moving to Vegas to find each other and then he ended up with proposing to me. You said it took a really long time for you to get engaged. So tell us that process.

Speaker 4:

I guess I was fighting my own demons. Um , I was married at the time. I had to, you know, go through the process of getting a divorce. I was also fighting my, a demon of mind , which was alcoholism. We lost a lot of time there. I went to rehab for six months while Jane was pregnant with our first child. Uh , Juliana . And , um, that was really, really hard for her. I think that's what I would take back was that last time in my previous life, I lost eight years to alcoholism and losing time is not something that I want to do much of anymore now that I'm living a sober life and have this wonderful, wonderful life.

Speaker 3:

So is there anything you would advise people who are dating with a change in their approach?

Speaker 4:

She , I , you know, it's, it's kind of like a played out answer I guess. Cause you know, it's all about communication. That's something that led to some of our rockier times early in our relationship is that, you know, I just would not get outside myself and communicate with Jamie exactly how I was feeling about things. And that was a time killer too. We spent a lot of time arguing about simple things, things that I couldn't let go perhaps about my past or the way that I was feeling about myself. But I would have to say that simple communication , um , is, is the key for any relationship because it takes a matter of minutes to express yourself and that could lead to a lifetime

Speaker 3:

sometimes that people need to hear the lesson again. So I don't really think it's played out to, to reiterate that communication is really important. Can you think of one of the happiest moments you guys had together?

Speaker 4:

I think one of the happiest times a would have to be on my birthday when, when I asked Jamie to be my girlfriend. I just remember we were, we were at a city of Alameda get together with some other people and we, you know, we were just talking. I remember sitting across the table just looking at Jamie and just watching her, you know, really communicate with other people and it was in such contrast what I was used to in my past relationships and you know, just really, really warmed my heart just to see her talk and communicate and just watching her, I know just watching her be just really, really kind of took a grip on my heart and just showed me that, you know, this is what I was missing in a relationship. You know, somebody that did relate, somebody that listens and you know, just somebody who's all out more like myself. Um, and you know, that's just when I knew that this is what I wanted in my life.

Speaker 3:

Jamie, do you remember that date? On that bad day when he asked me to be, his girlfriend was , so we were at, like you said at this, that event, it was a Mexican restaurant. Which Mexican food, my favorite. Oh , this smells where , you know, all of the yummy food talkers and etc . Um, I remember my aunts were there, there was music. Um , I was eating , um , probably most likely a plate of tortilla chips and guacamole. Um , sort of my favorite , um, the smell of, you know, the beans and all of the yummy taco kind of Assata chicken, etc . And it was most likely mariachi music that was playing over the loud system. Um, they were also making announcements as far as the, I don't know, the volunteers of the year that had helped out with this event.

Speaker 4:

Everyone's dressed nice. It was like six o'clock.

Speaker 3:

Yeah. I just don't remember. You know, it was fun cause it , it was his birthday, so it was sort of a double celebration. And then he totally surprised me by, I think everyone had left at that point when he sort of sat down with me at the and say, do you know why I don't want to let this day pass without asking for my favorite birthday gift, which would be, if you'd be my girlfriend.

Speaker 4:

Can you tell us what was your biggest lesson about love? From the relationship.

Speaker 3:

Biggest lesson about love, I would say that things aren't always going to be a picture perfect or easy. Um, but when you find the person that you're truly meant to be with and that compliments you, it's easier to make it through those tough times. And it's , I mean, as Jesse said, communication is huge on that part as far as what were you feeling, you know, if you've, if you're going through a hard time. And Jesse is helping me through so many hard times that both personally and that we've both gone through , um, for example, with our kids. Um, just that it's great to have someone that really helps keep you grounded and remind you that with love you can make it through these tough times

Speaker 4:

when, when looking for love, don't look, it'll find you. And don't be afraid to step outside of your, outside of your own world. Um, Jamie is nothing like me and, and she loves me and it's, and it's great because she's nothing like I've ever known before in my past . And , um, yeah, it's , uh, it's nice to just, it's nice to find somebody who understands me. Um, somebody that I'd never would have guessed would have given me the time of day. That's great. That's wonderful.

Speaker 3:

It's funny that we met working in Ohana house because since then , um , Halloween has been a huge part of our relationship ever since. Um, we sort of embrace the fun spirit and enjoy being kids again with our children. And every year we do a family Halloween costume. This year we were, Ralph breaks the internet. Um , we've also repeated our roles as zombies, as extras and a television show. So just kind of always remembering to have fun with life. I think of a huge part of our family,

Speaker 5:

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