Choose Love: Extraordinary Love Stories

Anna + Wesley | Why You Should Consider Swiping Right

January 06, 2020 Anna + Wesley Season 1
Choose Love: Extraordinary Love Stories
Anna + Wesley | Why You Should Consider Swiping Right
Show Notes Transcript

This warm and open couple show how important honesty and having fun is in their relationship. They met on Tinder and claim they are living proof that online dating works. The two were recently married in September 2019. Listen in to hear about how the stars aligned and they embarked on love's biggest journey together.

The couple was interviewed by Stephen.

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spk_0:   0:10
Hello and welcome to choose Love Podcast Show The Chronicles The extraordinary love stories of ordinary people. Our hope is that these stories were inspired So the hashtag choose love. My name is Steve Peyton and I will be your host. Hello and welcome to another episode of the choose love podcast this week. We're speaking to Anna and Wesley from Indiana. This warm and open couple show how important not only honesty is in a good relationship, but also the ability to take stock and have fun. So without further ado, let's get into it.

spk_1:   1:00
My name's Anna.

spk_2:   1:02
Hi, my intellectually And we are both from Indiana. I will. We not on tender. We met on the online dating app, actually, yeah. Contenders success. Yeah, so it was kind of funny, Like I It's just probably I just I started my first winter semester at Southern Illinois University and she was still in college at Chemo University, which is in Cape Girardeau. And I'm just right across the river from her butt. She like during tender she super like me, which is basically saying that like it immediately notifies me whenever someone does that. And so and she didn't even mean to do that. That was by accident, completely by accident. And, of course, I took advantage like, Oh, man, she's really cute. I'm gonna super like her back.

spk_1:   2:07
I didn't even respond to him till the day I was so embarrassed that I waited, like five dates.

spk_2:   2:13
Yeah, she took a little time before applying to me,

spk_0:   2:17
but it seems like your instant was right, because now you're married.

spk_2:   2:21
Yeah, I think it all worked

spk_0:   2:22
out. So you two days the message and then wound.

spk_2:   2:30
So we just kind of started talking, making very, very small talk

spk_1:   2:35
Friday night as he was going. Oh, okay. Okay. Did not know that. Actually, he he took his time with the task.

spk_2:   2:45
You know, whenever you're intoxicated, you gotta take a little time to, you know, really type out your messages, Okay? But, you know, Yeah, we I mean, we kind of talked and for, like, maybe a good another week or so before we really went on our first date. We, uh I mean, they're being, like, an hour away from each other and then also going to school. We had to kind of take advantage or weekends to see each other. And so, yeah, our first date was like on a Sunday night, and I never heard of Cape Girardeau in my life, so I had to Google where it wasa. I even realized it was in Missouri, which is, like, out for is back because I was in Carbondale, Illinois. It's only like an hour drive, but you gotta go across the Mississippi, and you gotta go into some really backward town to get there. So I was a little nervous on my first trip there, dear.

spk_1:   3:53
He had accepted the day. I

spk_2:   3:57
should have, but I was eager didn't meet

spk_1:   4:00
you. Our first air pressure is also very interesting because it was in, uh, hibachi grilled parking lot. And I was driving this little white monster that had a heated Dearden on the side of the door. So here I am, coming in my little bit. No coverage. Ho ho! My cards a lot better than the happened. Yeah, she had a major player, Billy. So, you know, my first impression of him was probably pacifist. I thought he was, like, 26 because I think you

spk_2:   4:34
well, Yeah, I got it. I I was, you know, I got the stuff more 60. And And I was, you know, a little on the have your side at the time. And I had a beard. I looked probably I'm 20 for right. I'm 24. Way met once we went Thio Hibachi restaurant and then went to a movie and a couple. Yeah. So how about your restaurant? The very interesting first day option? Because whenever you're sitting at the hibachi, you know, grill, you're surrounded by other people. But it was a Sunday. There was pretty quiet. And there is only one other couple there, and so is us. You know, this new couple that never even actually met each other before this, And then the other couple? That's right. I mean, right across the table, not even across. But

spk_1:   5:44
you say, Yeah, there, there, there, there. And there were 10 other seats around the table with a right next to each other.

spk_2:   5:53
Yeah, and they kept budging in on our conversations. Like I was just trying to kind of, you know, that herd like and tried to understand what she likes, what she doesn't like. And these guys just kept like you guys don't know each other news. You

spk_1:   6:11
know what? Hey, quickly. Our Children would excuse me, but it was your first day because you don't know a lot about

spk_2:   6:18
her. Yeah, like just to make everything more awkward and uncomfortable.

spk_1:   6:24
My safety thing was, you know how referencing is your building? You telling me about how he did cross country in school? So the guys have monthly shoulder. He's like, Excuse me, but you don't look like a cross country runner right on the way over. Yeah,

spk_2:   6:42
let's just say I was ready to leave.

spk_0:   6:45
How did How did you respond to that? Wasn't

spk_2:   6:48
I like you? Yeah, that was years ago, man. I know, like, I mean, they were good at keeping it light hearted. What? I mean, if it was just there, I felt like it would have been a little, well, awkward because, you know, you got awkward silence, booze, and you're trying to break the silence isn't in any way possible, but they were kind of there was, like, a buffer, and yeah, I think what was whenever I went to the bathroom?

spk_1:   7:22
Oh, yeah, they they asked me, but I was like, if they were irritating me and I didn't hear what I said. So I just not like a second later I realized OK for about I don't know. I didn't catch your name. Think quiet after that

spk_0:   7:41
because I feel they were irritating you. I

spk_2:   7:45
feel like if we were in the same position of them with a new couple across from us, I feel like we would have been joking. Thio. I mean, we probably wouldn't have but in as much as they did, but we would have definitely been given them giving him a hard time

spk_1:   8:02
way would have been really

spk_2:   8:04
no blue book. Yeah, that was a little far, I must say. But it was a really good day. Like, I think you really I really got to Never. Well, and even though I had to drive back in the pitch darkness of Illinois and it was pouring down rain Well, on my way back, I still didn't regret what I did.

spk_0:   8:30
Course you so bad. Why?

spk_1:   8:34
Because he was driving home in the thunderstorm, defined what it has invited to you. If I had known that, you know, is gonna thunderstorm right? As you were leaving. Yeah.

spk_0:   8:43
So what happened from there

spk_2:   8:45
in school like we have, you know, crazy deadlines. And it was, like, you know, countless hours of work and no sleep. And I was like, Hey, I'm just about to finish this project. You want come to Carbondale. We can get, you know, dinner and watch, like the Super Bowl, because I believe that Super Bowl was going off the time, and she's like, Yeah, and I'm like, Oh, yeah, actually project. So you got a little bit of my motivation and she actually came to my studio with me, and we she helped me, like, print and grab my model. On what? Not and help me finish up, actually. And then we went to dinner and likes got to know each other even more than and it was like, I didn't want to leave from cutting my apartment, Just like every time. You know, we saw each other in like Like, I could forget about school for a while and just shut that part of my brain off.

spk_0:   9:56
Well,

spk_1:   9:57
tonight he still like me, even after my dog shredded one of this.

spk_2:   10:01
Yeah, well, unfortunately, that one was done.

spk_0:   10:04
You have this feeling that you didn't want her to leave? Um, I mean, I know. How was that experience for you? Did you feel the same way?

spk_1:   10:14
I was rebounding expert for the 1st 6 Honestly, was just like, he's cute. I'm gonna try video. Gonna wait it out.

spk_2:   10:22
Yeah, she just got a different relationship she was willing to meet. You know me. Even though I was like, you know, I didn't have any things typing down, just trying to meet new people. And I met her. I was happy about that. And I don't particularly care whether she at the time whether she was going through that phase or not That, like, if I needed to avoid seeing her or not, I wanted to hear on. I'm glad I did.

spk_1:   10:54
He just ripping, knowing all the bridge last. Yeah.

spk_0:   10:59
Thank God he did. Yeah. So I mean, where did you get from there?

spk_2:   11:08
Well, I eventually went to her parents because she was still living with her mom and dad. Could her house, her mom and dad's house. We're, like, not even a 20 minute drive from the university. So she commuted, like the first time. Well, the first time I actually visited her place was on Valentine's Day. We did like a, you know, Valentine's Day dinner and movie ing. And no. Well, I think you did. Well, I remember

spk_1:   11:43
that You both take a head, like all that stuff. That a guy table. Anyway, I was scared of him up here because they did not like,

spk_2:   11:54
Yeah, so, yeah, I met her mom and dad. I think the first time I didn't need She has two little sisters and an older brother. I didn't meet them the first time I went toe her house. Yeah, her dad can be like, from, at least from first impressions, you can be a little intimidating, but he's really a lovable guy like you get along with everybody. And I was like, Trio, you got that very, uh, conservative personality. But he's Yeah, he's a little guy, but yeah, like, he gave me a bagel firm handshake and, I don't know, he had some ridiculous, like a shirt on. Just makes embarrass. You and your mom was, you know, nice. But she's always nice, right? Yeah. What? What is this one like? Yeah, but yeah, I mean, I didn't really get a chance to really talk with I. We were kind of in and out like that. So but yeah, I mean, after that, we kind of Eventually I eventually went over and actually stayed like a good while and met her sisters, who were like, We're at the time, I think, like, 11 and 12 or 11. 13 like that.

spk_1:   13:20
My little sister Sunni on her nook created notes of all my exes on and see what comes here, though. So then she made one about left, please. And you know what about my last day? Of course, leading the first second. She had met him a few times, and, of course, she breaks her neck. E look quickly. Look, what about you?

spk_2:   13:41
Yeah, they are very You were like, you know, no filter like kids. It would be like they kind of strand told me. He's like, Oh, yeah, the exit. It is unlike, uh, they're

spk_1:   13:58
probably easily is the name of blessed place. Anybody look whole areas to calmly, easily.

spk_2:   14:03
Yeah, they liked me, though I think even from the first time that we got to know each other that we kind of get along and I think from there on, like they started thinking me as a brother, like, almost like within a month or two after hanging out with Anna.

spk_0:   14:23
So you got the seal of approval from the parents?

spk_2:   14:27
Yeah, I think it took a little bit of time, but I eventually did on glass about that. I mean, families means a lot to me. And it means a lot to her, too. And, yeah, I think thinks that once that field in that, I felt like, Yeah, I felt way more

spk_1:   14:46
comfortable. I dated a few, but they were kind of hold. Yeah.

spk_0:   14:54
Mmm. So what you're saying the bar was low?

spk_1:   14:59
Yeah, I know. Not my last. That's what it was. A couple of four men, But you, like, he was a year younger than me. And he could just kind of tell that we were gonna grow apart and separate, like he was a really nice kind of an idiot. But he was nice.

spk_0:   15:19
Uh, I was definitely love them. Yeah. Didn't have

spk_2:   15:25
to go bar above it,

spk_1:   15:28
but, like, from the beginning and like thing the first thing out of her mouth And like, always pretended with anal sex. But we really like you.

spk_0:   15:38
Excellent.

spk_1:   15:42
They got to the point where Wesley would visit. And like I was, I'm still a habitual napper. Wesley would play Scrabble in them, and I'd be, like, downstairs sleeping. And, like, why? We were visiting and we were just playing games and I was really lazy. Then my mom and dad get onto me for it. Plenty. Like Wesley wasn't hesitating place. Sorry, gravel. You know, skip it, Will you name it?

spk_2:   16:08
They're always tragic. Coin arsenal of board games and corrections. The man logic. I'm gang in the

spk_0:   16:15
I. So, you know, you settled in youth been accepted by the parent. So I mean, what what's the next step? Where do you get from there? We know we're getting close.

spk_2:   16:26
Well, I think I mean, she eventually went to visit with my family, which was the next big step. Really? Because first of all, she never been to Indiana from them. Not at that point. Yeah, and she never had been that far from home. Really? With someone like B o. I mean, I guess it's not, but she never been that airs in that section of the U S. Like she's never been to Kentucky. Never been to Indiana, though. And it was? Yeah, I think. Like, I think her parents were a little nervous, but, I mean, she seemed excited. And, I mean, my parents were excited about meeting a cornfield way. Get a lot of Children of the corn reference. They are area because it is, Yeah, nothing but corn fields and silos. But yeah, she Yeah, she has quite a few opinions of our town because I grew up in a town of 2300. So and my graduating class was 62. Yeah. So if that can put into perspective how small this town is and where my mom and dad live, I mean that they live in town, and it's really like you don't really have that. It is like you couldn't walk to the nearest grocery story, can walk to the McDonald. You can walk to the gas station like it. It's that kind of Ivan. I don't think Anna was prepared for that, but no. I mean, like, she brought little August, um, her dog with us with her and my, uh, mom loves dogs. So it was. It was interesting her to meet this new lady and then also the new dog

spk_1:   18:32
they have outside cat that obvious trace step a

spk_2:   18:35
tree a first time for, like our their August chases up are like how cat are, like neighborhood cat up the trees.

spk_1:   18:46
I did it often. Parents first time too, because I'll never forget. I guess I was going into the kitchen by the stairs, and it's like this really skinny hallway. So when I went in, like, Iran and his dad and he's like, Oh, well, you could just sit And he was like, You could just say, Excuse me, you know, call me dad or carry whenever you're comfortable with. Like, I don't much care. They're already calling you.

spk_2:   19:10
Yeah, I think they They thought you were keeper from the first day you, But I mean, compared to my axis, Yeah.

spk_1:   19:20
I mean, that's one thing I can say. I'm so grateful Board. It's like me and Leslie can visit each other's families by ourselves. And it's not awkward. Yeah, that his parents by my folks have gone to my parents or my soul.

spk_0:   19:35
So tell me about the proposal and how did you do it?

spk_2:   19:39
Okay, so I decided to take her to the ground, can stay park and we just go hiking and that's where I was playing on proposing. But I was trying to find the right place because I just want to make a big public event out of it. I wanted to be fairly private between me and her, and so we kept hiking high team and it was like on a Saturday and was fairly nice at the time we got there. So there was a lot of people out there, so it is hard to find an opportunity. But yeah, way find this trail by this late and we go walking around it and then eventually find this doc that's just hanging out on onto the lake and like, you know, let's just sit here and rest for a minute. I slip into my pocket and Congo and overly like a part of the plastic dad. And so, yeah, I pull out the plastic bag and I'm just trying to fiddle to get it out of the freaking bag. Unfortunately, I got in my palm. I didn't drop it in the lake, but I asked her, and before I could even really even has a question she would get if you like Yeah, it was like, so is more excitement than anything like, I was just so happy that I didn't Really Even

spk_1:   21:09
I knew it was coming because when he took out the night before I went into the calendar on his phone me that he keeps what test? So I knew he had picked up something,

spk_2:   21:20
So she already you that it was about to happen. So this is a surprise. Kind of already got Yeah.

spk_0:   21:30
Oh, uh, yeah. How did you How did you feel that? Because if you kind of knew it was coming. But, I mean, you must have fell over the moon, right?

spk_1:   21:43
I e was anything but what I wanted to be with my life. Like I knew that he was the one that I would have been in on the rest of my life swiftly, Dorkiness and all

spk_2:   21:58
Married in September 28. And the wedding went really well. We, um we spent, like, ah, whole week, huh? Like a whole week and 1/2 off work as we you know, like a four hour drive from here to Thio cape. And we, um you know, we were there for a good 32 days before the wedding, and then

spk_1:   22:26
we came out of the wind day's night. So they say, we cocktail party to my family. Uh, they're more spread out, too. So kind of none of my friends like my maid of honor is in California. My, you know, other bridesmaid was in Chicago and then when the doctor was in Indiana, but no one from my side of the family really held a wedding shower. So we waited the Thursday night when people were gonna be in town anyway to kind of cool because people party threw down and then Friday rehearsal dinner. Well, what a reversal course. And you know, I got my Now it's done. I hung out with the bridesmaids all day. You finally picked up by letting drugs and hid that from Wesley. Oh, I forgot my fees. So what? Well, stranger, that that helps a little bit walk out. My dad was trying on his suit and almost with him Saturday. Like my parents kind of model. A college graduation president hates of the wedding planner. Something that really helped everything go smoothly. Oh, you know, of course, I It was testifying. People be like the wedding here and stuff that day of just like I'm not living in Indian anymore. But I took a chance on from when I need from high school. And it worked out really well. Locally. I was a little scared. No, our photographer was really great. Like our thing is, we did the ceremony at the church because my mother threw a fit like she wasn't gonna let us have it at the reception hall. Outdoor things would've been Wait, could you What's going on? I would have alone if we could have behind on through a major major fit. We did not get married in the church. So you can tell them most people skip the Catholic wedding and that they came to the reception. Yeah, quite a look. How many people were in the trust PS on help? Busy? The reception wasn't like I know anything about See your faces at the church.

spk_0:   24:40
But I

spk_1:   24:41
think they were afraid we were gonna get the wedding and the math. It was really, really could you know, we did. The ceremony went but being, but we were a little awkward at a couple times. Yeah, his poem. So plenty of The little girl

spk_2:   24:59
was incredibly nervous. Not even just about, like, you know, getting married. But oh, God, I don't want a trip. I don't want to stage something wrong. And I wanna I don't want to make a fool of myself in front of all these people. So it was more of that nerve than anything on, uh, But I got

spk_1:   25:19
my I was laughing so hard while I was downstairs in the church, you know, waiting for the serum you don't want. My dad had come out there and he's a buffet at last night. So when with nervous, if he tippy toes a lot, How I guess about five different people like my mom and, you know, a couple of the bridesmaid for just last week, I was really nervous. Like, don't tell. Definitely. Come on. Our toes take out. You have to get it.

spk_0:   25:51
Looking back now, over your relationship from when you first met to now, you know, is there any advice that you were gives your younger Selves?

spk_2:   26:04
I think it would just be like don't try to put on a face. Put on a fake facade of yourself from the very beginning. Be honest from the very beginnings and just save yourself the time on dhe hassle. You know, that's what you're getting in the end is you someone that should accept your face value. And if they don't, then they're not going.

spk_0:   26:35
Definitely. And what about you, Anna?

spk_1:   26:38
My name is probably don't overreact much like when we got broken into, like, I went from here. The 90 and, like, for me, like everything does work out. Like even though we had to leave that apartment, we got a better one. You know, I just get really stressed out, and I wish I could tell myself, you know, things were gonna work out because, like, I think in December, when even wanted out of the job and Evans will like, I didn't know I got it until November. So that whole mud that was trusting with Michael, you know, am I gonna come live with you even though I don't have a job like, are you gonna be able to support, you know, both of us. And I think that's just the thing with me and left. Things should have, like, work themselves out, and it's not I mean, we put effort and we kept trying. But I wish I could tell Michael's, you know, relax, take a breast. He putting effort in because things will work out. And I feel like that's how it's worked out with me and want a lot If things just get so close toe. You know, the crunch like this is the deadline and just all unfold beautifully or you know, when things don't happen and they don't go one way, it's because I turned out better, a different way. We just didn't know the ending. You didn't know what was gonna happen.

spk_2:   28:06
Yeah, I can agree with that. Just

spk_1:   28:09
now. We're finally stable. We finally have, you know, two jobs in the area that do you want to live in, where we want to raise our seats, your families where we've dreamed about from when we first started, we finally reached that, and I think that's just a weird feeling in itself. Ever since I was little, tell all, you know I wanted to have a family. I want you to dream the dreams about my wedding day for so long and the nickel. Finally, captain, we're finally settling, and I feel like I could finally enjoying myself. You know, we're already making plans on, you know, very wanna go next. Where do we want to visit? I feel like everything come

spk_0:   28:55
together. Yeah. Wow, that's amazing. That's so cool. You know, I like that. I like those two points in your honesty and, you know, keeping cool to get to the point of stability that you're right now. And what amazing amazing point of your journey that you're at. How amazing to be able to do this podcast. Now, this corner where you got this, like a blank slate. It's a very solid, stable, blank slate and can do whatever you want with me. You can paint onto it. Whatever picture you want to go on. This. That's just amazing. So, congratulations to both of you. I think that's, um, such a nice position to be in

spk_2:   29:39
so much. So it's a very therapeutic. Have expected to just be ableto talk about the past was somewhat

spk_0:   29:47
well on that note. Then, uh, I'd like to thank you both for being a part of this, and, uh, good luck. Good luck in life.

spk_2:   29:56
E appreciate so much.

spk_0:   29:58
Okay. Thanks a lot. See you later. So once again, I'd like to thank Anna and Wesley being a part of podcast, and I'd like to thank you for listening. And if you have any feedback for us, then please get in touch. You can email us at Choose Love podcast at gmail dot com. Thanks again. See you again next time.